Broken dreams...Broken heart...

"Great loves too must be endured..."

"Grands amours aussi doit être supporté"

Coco Chanel
"Vous qui passez sans me voir ..."

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-62RMi9Vip8

As many of my girlfriends are aware, I recently experienced the loss of someone that I loved very much. It was the death of a dream; the death of a promise... and,well ...as cliche as it sounds...my heart has been broken since that day.

I've learned that grief is something very personal and that it is nearly impossible to explain to someone that has not experienced it for themselves.  No matter what type of loss we are experiencing it can be an opportunity for us to gain tremendous insights into the wonders of life.

7 Steps for Coping with Loss:

1. Remember. Loss isn't about endings, although at the time it may seem that way, it's about remembering the invitation for new beginnings.The possibilities for new ways of thinking, doing, and seeing things are available. They are right there waiting patiently for you to unwrap like a beautiful gift.

2. Go outside. There's something about being outside that reminds us of the magical and mystical ways of life; it is grounding, comforting, rejuvenating, liberating, and renewing.

3. There's no rush. Take time to be with you and the emotions that may arise. So many wonderful epiphanies and aha moments can be overlooked when you rush through. Allow yourself to go through the motions of your emotions. Don't charge through them; honour them, be with them and befriend them. There is so much you can discover that will enhance your growth and expansion.

4. Breathe and Meditate. Often our emotions can seem to take over during a time of loss and we can forget to draw in some deep connecting and healing breaths that allows us to quiet our thoughts and hear the messages that are awaiting us.

5. Have faith. This can be challenging because the feelings of loss can be so great that instead of strengthening your faith, you begin to lose it. Since faith is not something you can see, you have to rely on your instincts, gut feelings, intuition, or stillness. Faith lives in your heart, not in your mind; this can be difficult to rely on especially during tough times. This is where you let go and let the Universe lead the way. When you do you open the door for miracles, opportunities, potential, promise and possibilities to enter.

6. Trust. Through the rollercoaster of emotions you might experience some good days and some bad days; some moments will be happy and some sad; there could be doubts and sureties and there might be anger and peace, but you can trust that through the tunnels of darkness the light shines again. You can begin to trust yourself and/or others. You honour your emotions. You develop understanding. You begin to believe that there is a universal grace operating in your life and that you are connected to it at all times. You become aware that new possibilities are unfolding from what seemed like a never ending emotional ride.

7. Change. Sometimes it can be hard to believe that something good can come out of what seems bad or even devastating.Within every crisis lies the possibility for changes, transformation, growth, expansion, new outlooks, new opportunities, and renewed spirit. Remember, there isn't a right or wrong way of dealing with loss, or a time table of how long you may ride the emotional rollercoaster, but rest assure when you open your heart you are making room for great adventures and awareness in life.

These statements are all very comforting, however, if I could change things...  I would. 

Lyrics | Jann Arden - You Don’t Know Me lyrics